And just to add to this, there is no where in Africa called Bendel State. Only took 3, online. How couples think and what they believe about their spouse affects how they perceive the other. Find out those insecurities you have about yourself. In fact, her recent Pakistan trip involved yet another awkward matchmatching experience. I also read that people who suffer from personality disorders, can and do become less destructive, later in life, mid-fifties is what I read. Because what she brings to my life, the joy and love and support in my own life… it far outweighs sex.